“Oh My Aching Back!”

Growing older may bring its share of aches and pains, but it also invites us to discover deeper meaning, embrace new possibilities, and appreciate the blessings of each day.

My cousins from Connecticut are visiting me in Chattanooga this week, and we are spending a few days together in Nashville as well. My cousin and I have always been exceptionally close, more like sisters, and having them here has been an extraordinary gift. There is something irreplaceable about spending time with family, sharing stories, laughing together, and enjoying one another’s company.

All three of us lead active lives. We exercise, try to eat well, and care for our health. My cousins are retired, and I am approaching that chapter myself. We still have plenty of energy, enthusiasm, and curiosity, though our bodies occasionally have other ideas!

Nearly every day, one of us remarks something along the lines of: “Oh, my aching back!” or suggests, “Perhaps we should rest before dinner.” Activities that once seemed effortless may now require more time, patience, and perhaps an afternoon nap.

We laugh about it, but beneath the laughter is a recognition that growing older brings both blessings and challenges. Our bodies carry the experiences of decades of living, working, raising a family, traveling, celebrating, and enduring difficulties. They remind us that time has passed, even when our spirits feel youthful.

Rabbi Richard Address, founder of Jewish Sacred Aging, explores the spiritual dimensions of growing older. In his essay The Courage to Flourish (February 25, 2026), he writes, “Judaism teaches us that as long as we live, we seek meaning and our place in this world.”

This week’s Torah portion, Noach, offers a compelling illustration of this enduring search for meaning and purpose. Noah is 600 years old when the Flood begins (Genesis 7:6). Whatever we make of the extraordinary ages recorded in the Torah, the message is striking: Noah’s age does not diminish his responsibility or capacity to act. At an advanced age, he becomes central to the possibility of a new beginning.

Our opportunities to contribute, discover, learn, and begin anew do not disappear as we grow older. Our roles may evolve, our priorities may shift, and our bodies may require greater care, but our capacity to live meaningful and purposeful lives remains. Perhaps this is why Jewish tradition invites us to begin each morning with gratitude, recognizing that every new day brings possibilities, regardless of our age.

Two of our morning blessings, for example, take on deeper meaning as we grow older. In Modeh Ani, we thank God for restoring our souls and granting us another day. Asher Yatzar, allows us to express gratitude for the remarkable functioning of our very human body. As we age, we become more conscious of abilities we once took for granted and more appreciative of the extraordinary gift of another day in which to live, love, and contribute.

Yet, the Jewish understanding of aging extends beyond our individual experiences. It also speaks to how we honor and care for one another. The Torah teaches, “You shall rise before the aged and show deference to the old; you shall fear your God: I am the Eternal” (Leviticus 19:32). For younger generations, this means recognizing the wisdom and experience of those who preceded them. For those caring for aging loved ones, it means offering compassion and assistance while honoring their dignity and independence.

We also recognize that not everyone experiences aging with good health, financial security, or the comfort of close family relationships. Illness, loneliness, and loss can make later years particularly difficult. As a sacred community, we have a responsibility to ensure that every person, regardless of age or circumstance, continues to feel valued, connected, and supported.

Spending these precious days with my cousins has reminded me that growing older is not simply about acknowledging our limitations. It is about recognizing what truly matters. We may navigate stairs more cautiously than we once did, become more discerning about how much we fit into each day, and recognize the importance of rest. Yet, we are so fortunate and blessed to have another day to explore, another meal to share, another story to tell, and people we love with whom to share the journey.

Perhaps that is one of the gifts of growing older: learning to measure the richness of our lives not by how much we accomplish in a day, but by the meaning we find in the moments we are given.

When we awaken tomorrow morning, may we greet the day with the gratitude of Modeh Ani, mindful not only of the gift of another day, but of the opportunity to make that day a blessing.

Shabbat Shalom!

Rabbi Sharon L. Sobel

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